The summer is fading quickly, so get out there and make the most of what’s left of it. The best way to do that is to take your tryst outside for some au natural fun. Here are our top 5 picks on how to tryst in the great outdoors.

The Backyard: It’s your home turf and it offers all the wonders of the outdoors while still giving you a little privacy. Just hide behind the hedge or fence, and extra points if you use the swing set in your activities. Try this position: reverse cowgirl Guys – sit on a lounge or lawn chair with your legs outstretched. Girls – straddle him so you’re facing his feet. Put your hands on his thighs and firmly plant your feet on the ground on either side of the chair. You can also have him recline so he’s lying down, giving you even deeper penetration.

Beach Party: The sea air can do wonders for your sex life. The sand, the surf and the easy access thanks to the bikini can be seductive. Look for a secluded spot shielded by rocks, and spread out a towel or blanket because you don’t want sand sticking to your nether regions. Try this position: girl on top Straddle him and dig your knees slightly into the blanket-covered sand. Rather than move up and down, stay close together and rub your clitoris against his pubic bone. When you sense that he’s on the brink of climax, switch to a figure-eight motion.

Wet and Wild in the Water: Getting it on in the water can be pretty wild. But remember, water can wash away your own lubrication, so use a silicone-based lube. Try this position: standing up Wrap your legs around his waist (if you’re in the shower, have him lean you up against the wall for support) and push your swimsuit bottom to the side for easy access. Then throw your arms around his neck while he grabs your butt to control the pace.

Sex Ahoy! Get it on it a small boat – there’s nothing more intimate than having sex in the middle of a large stretch of water out in the middle of nowhere. Try this position: spooning Lie on your back while he lies on his side facing you. Put your leg (the one closest to him) across his thighs and turn so your butt faces him while he enters you from behind. Move slowly and rhythmically together so you don’t rock the boat.

Out in the woods: While you’re out hiking or mountain biking, stop and work up a different kind of sweat. Try this position: doggy style Lean on a big rock or a tree for support while he enters you from behind. His hands can stroke your other hot spots, and you can arch your back for deeper penetration.

It’s the little things that count, even when it comes to trysting. Small, romantic gestures will get her attention. Even if you think it’s corny, try your hand at romance – it will come back around (usually in the bedroom). Try these tips and your trysting activities will increase (trust us!)

Prepare her favorite meal: A man who knows his way around the kitchen is sexy – ask any woman. Find out what her favorite meal is and surprise her with it – you’ll be guaranteed to get a “good for one tryst” pass. Follow up the meal with her favorite coffee, drink or desert if you want to go the extra mile.

Write a hand-written letter: Sure, email and text has revolutionized the way we communicate, but nothing says romance like a love letter. Slip a hand-written note in the mail or under her door, and add some sexy narratives to it. It can be a love letter, an erotic fantasy, anything you want. You get extra points for using actual stationary or a note card.

Bring her a token present: Girls love getting gifts – especially ones for no reason. It doesn’t matter if they’re expensive or not – they just have to be thoughtful. So it can’t be a teddy bear, it needs to mean something to her. It could be something as simple as something she needs, like a flat iron or soap.

Dance with her: You can move your body in bed, but sometimes it’s ok to show her how you move your money maker. You don’t have to be out at the club – take her for a spin in the living room, on the street, pretty much anywhere spontaneous. All you need is some nice music and no one else in the general vicinity.

Give her a flower: This is another little gesture you can pull out of your hat for no occasion at all. Plus, it only has to be one flower, just make sure it’s original, like an orchid or a sunflower. Please note that dandelions and other weeds, as well as plastic flowers, won’t do in a pinch.

Pamper her: Women love to be pampered (just look at all the spas out there). After a long day, surprise her with a bubble bath, candles and chocolate-covered strawberries waiting tub-side. As she soaks, hop in and give her a massage. Finish it off by toweling her off and treating her to some hot oral sex. This one can’t fail.

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Trysting isn’t a modern phenomenon. People have been doing it for centuries. We’ve compiled a list of famous historical trysts – some recent, some ancient – that have stood the test of time and have become inspiration to us all.

Mark Antony and Cleopatra: The queen of Egypt, Cleopatra was the mistress of Julius Caesar, king of Rome, until his assassination in 44 B.C.E. After his untimely death, she hooked her chariot to Antony, who was married to Gaius Octavian’s (Caesar’s grandnephew) sister. Octiavian declared war on the two lovers, and while in battle, Antony received a false report that Cleopatra had committed suicide. Overcome with grief, he stabbed himself in the abdomen with a sword into and died.  When she was taken prisoner, Cleopatra smuggled a poisonous snake into her cell, and it delivered a fatal strike to her breast. She was buried next to Antony, so they could lie together for an eternity.

Henry Miller and Anais Nin: The two writers met in Paris in the 1930, while both were married to different people. The tryst lasted years and became the subject of Nin’s famous journals, as well as a movie, Henry and June. Her diaries, which filled a multitude of volumes, document social engagements, their love affair and a love affair with Miller’s wife, June. The passionate love affair turned into a friendship as they grew older, and both remarried (Nin was actually married to two men at the same time!).

Prince Charles and Camilla Parker-Bowles: Things started off innocently enough for the two young lovers, who started dating in 1970. Camilla reportedly made the first move by saying “My great-grandmother was your great-great-grandfather’s mistress, so how about it?” The pair broke up and married others, but the flame was still strong between the pair. Their affair was finally discovered after phone conversations went public (you know, the famous “tampon” comment), and they kept their relationship under wraps until around 1999. They finally tied the knot in 2005, ending a tryst fit for a king.

Henry VII and Anne Boleyn: The randy king of England had a wandering eye – not so uncommon within the monarchy, but it is when you want to divorce the queen to marry your mistress. Distraught that his own wife, Queen Catherine, couldn’t produce a male heir, Henry became fixated on getting a divorce and marrying a much-younger, child-bearing woman. Henry finally got an annulment from his first marriage and married Anne – however, when she failed to produce a son for him, he had her executed for adultery and incest. He went on to marry four more times, and in the end, his only son died young.

Napoleon and Josephine: Napoleon Bonaparte was captivated the moment he saw Josephine, a charming and beautiful Paris socialite – but wasn’t immediately successful. He was short, unkempt and rather homely looking – not really her type. Josephine eventually had a change of heart, and the two were married in 1796. Shortly after their wedding, Napoleon embarked on a series of military campaigns, while Josephine embarked on her own series of adulterous affairs. Later, he became focused on having a son to carry on his royal lineage. But he eventually came to the conclusion that Josephine was unable to conceive, and the couple divorced in 1809.

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Being eco-friendly doesn’t mean hairy legs, not showering and growing massively long dreadlocks – not necessarily sexy. We’ve come up with a list of reasons why going Green is sexy and can help you pick up a few Trysts while you’re at it!

1. Baby, I want to save the planet for you: By becoming passionate and knowledgeable about a good cause, especially one such as as saving the earth, you’re proving to others (read: someone you’re trying to impress) that you care for others and think outside of yourself. Being sensitive to the environment has never been hotter (no Global Warming pun intended), and a Google search will bring up pages and pages of articles to get you well versed on the subject. Besides, who doesn’t love the dolphins (just look at Heroes hottie Hayden Panettiere – imagine getting arrested and sharing a jail cell with her. Cue porn music.)

2. Clothing makes the man: Go Eco Chic! These days, going Green has never looked so good. You can get jeans that use environmentally dyeing and recycling techniques (UJeans: www.ujeans.com), shirts made from recycled polyester (we love the ones from Mountain Equipment Co.: www.mec.ca) and sexy lingerie made from organic cotton and soy (take a look at Eros & Isis delectable delicates: www.erosandisis.com). Even your local mall’s popular retail outlets carry a great selection of clothes that are made from or produced using eco approved practices. Added bonus: it means getting into your pants makes your partner an environmentalist too!

3.Eating better=looking better: Eat organic produce and meats and the benefits will shine through. Without all those added chemicals, your skin will brighten and the toxins will start to leave your body, giving you more energy to spend on activities you enjoy (you won’t list them here, but most of them take place in the bedroom). The effects will be cumulative – the better you feel, the more you’ll want to take care of your temple, on the inside and out. And while beauty may be skin deep, we all know what a pretty package can do!

4. Electric vehicles generate vehicles physical electricity too: Plug it in and get turned on. Have you ever gotten it on in electric car? Well then, that’s reason enough to buy one! It seems like there’s a new electric vehicle coming out every day – cars, trucks and motorcycles. On a serious note, with all the money you’re saving on fuel costs, that leaves some extra spending money for dates, going out and looking good.

5. Save energy by turning out the lights: This one is a no-brainer. But just in case you need a more detailed explanation, please follow these steps: 1) Turn off the lights. 2) Get busy. 3) Rinse, lather, repeat. The benefits of turning off the lights and leaving them off are twofold – first is the “getting some” factor, and the second is the money you save on your hydro bill. It feels so good to do your part for MotherEarth, doesn’t it?

6. Leonardo Dicaprio – He dates supermodels and does his part to save the earth. Coincidence? We think not.

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Looking for lust in all the wrong places?  We’ve compiled a list of the top 5 pick-up spots where you could meet your next tryst!

1.   Online: Just a few short years ago, nobody would ever say they met a date over the Internet (even though we were all doing it!). Today, and especially in these trying economic times, online dating is the fiscally responsible choice and the #1 spot for meeting people. Even if you’re looking for something a little more risqué than your run-of-the-mill dating site, an adult dating community is just what the doctor ordered.

2.   Work: This may not fly in a smaller company, but larger ones are a hot bed of sexy activity just waiting to happen. These companies often feature a variety of departments you never interact with. Try taking your break or lunch at a different time than normal, as there’s usually a rotating group of new faces. Go for a walk outside – there’s also great potential from other companies located close to yours, all outdoors enjoying the good weather. And if things don’t work out with your coworker, don’t worry – since the company is large, there’s a good chance you won’t see them that often.

3.    Sporting Activities: Forget the gym – smart trysters are dropping the dumbbells and joining a sports-related group. There are so many to choose from – Learn to Run clinics, beach volleyball, ultimate Frisbee – so you’ll find one that speaks to your skill level. An added bonus is the other members of your team or league are fairly fit, have lots of energy, and most important of all, have plenty of stamina to keep going and going and going… all night long!

4.    Grocery store: Hey, everyone’s gotta eat. That’s why your local grocery store is a great place to pick up. But be forewarned – the “nice melons” pick-up line doesn’t work anymore (Wait… did it ever work?). If you see someone you like, start a conversation about food – what wine goes with what main course, have they tried a certain food product, or point at something in their cart and ask what aisle they got it from because you’ve always wanted to try it.

5.    Volunteer: Exposing your sensitive side is sometimes the quickest way to get someone to expose their private parts. Sign up to feed the kittens or walk the dogs at your community pet shelter, join a cleaning crew to pick up litter or spend a Thanksgiving packing or serving food to the homeless. While you’re knee deep in philanthropic duties, there’s no better time to bring up the “tragic plight of the so-and-so cause,” which can lead you to donate your sexy charitable services at their place. Added bonus: Tout your mad humanitarian skills at parties, gatherings and other social functions to earn the sensitive vote that always pays off in the bedroom.

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Everybody has a worst date story. Here are some that made us laugh out loud – although we’re sure that when they happened to these Trysters, they weren’t laughing.

My worse date was with a guy who after each bite of his food would belch or “mmmmm” to either make room for more or show his dislike for the food!  The worst thing was we were in a high-end restaurant and I wanted to crawl under the carpet… to hell with just crawling under the table! –Sandra

The worst date I ever had was with this guy was so eager to meet me he came after work in his dirty work clothes and was so excited to get here, he forgot his dentures  and was 8 hrs early!  When I went to meet him for an early morning coffee (he woke me at 6 am and wanted to meet for coffee) I went without makeup or a shower.  When I got there, I found out he was 3-inches shorter than he said he was! We never spoke again.  – Leanne

I had been over to a gal pal’s house and I had a major crush on her. We were getting pretty friendly but for some reason I had to go home.  I was pretty sure I could have nailed her that night too – my bad. So we were pretty hot the next week.  I picked her up after dark one night and figured we’d be screwing in 5 minutes. Suddenly, she rolled the window down and began to puke. She puked enough for 3 people, as a matter of fact. She then was feverish and I took her home. She was sick, I was not longer interested, I didn’t get laid, and my car and clothes stunk. — Tim

Man!!! The worst date (or maybe best date) I ever had was when this girl and I (we were 19 years old at the time) ended up really drunk on this huge bed. Well one thing let to another, and the next thing I know I’m pounding her doggie-style. Then I looked around while in the midst of the action, and noticed some guns in their holsters hanging on the bed mantle. Come on – what are you supposed to think when you’re pounding a 19 year old doggie-style on a huge bed? I know what I was thinking; and it wasn’t thoughts of whose bed this really was. Later, I found out it was her daddy’s bed, and at the moment of realization, a big tan truck pulled up in the drive way and she totally FREAKED in a bad way. I didn’t even ask who it might be, I just got up and started running for my life. Well, I don’t know about you, but trying to run for your life and being totally plastered at the same time just don’t work! I must have ran into every piece of furniture in the house at full speed, and finally busted down this glass sliding door trying to get far from that house. I woke up that afternoon in my bed naked and bleeding, with broken glass lodged all over my body. I’m glad to say that I’ve been sober coming on 5 years in May. — Allen

When this guy picked me up for our date, I told him that I was hungry.  He pulled up to McDonald and parked. I waited a few seconds and then got out of the car to pay for my own food when it was clear he wasn’t going to. I told him that I could walk home – I needed to calm down. — Amy

We’re proud of our Trysters – you’ve had sex in some pretty outlandish locations. Some of you were kind enough to send us the coolest and most exotic places you’ve had a tryst, and we decided to share them with everyone! The names have been changed to protect the horny.

In a stalled elevator stuck for an hour, there was nothing better to do with these two women. It was their 1st girl-on-girl experience. They were both 50′s, we laughed and meet later that evening… and a couple more times after that. — Tom

On top of my house, I was a little adventurous and decided to bring a sleeping bag to the roof to look at the stars. I laid it out, along with the girlfriend, and had sex from 12:15am to 2:30am, not caring how much noise was made. The next day my neighbor asked me how my night was, I said it was out of this world, and he smiled (I think he knew). –Doug

My lover at the time and I were walking by a set of outdoor handball courts in Coalinga. She suggested that we “have a little fun.” We slipped into the farthest one, laid our clothes on the cement floor, and began the loving. –Frank

In the men’s dormitory (separated by a rice-paper screen from my Math teacher and his wife, our chaperons), and then in the Tatami mat storage room, in the monastery in Nara National Park of Japan during a ShipSchool Association tour in 1970. –Tim

Under the boardwalk, Asbury Park, N.J., with people walking over head. No, we did not get caught. –Sarah

On my boss’s desk with his wife while he was out of state on business. –Ryan

My wife and I had sex on a pool table once. It was great, especially since we shouldn’t have been on a table in a public place – nobody came in, however. –Steven

The coolest place I’ve had sex was in a swimming pool full of people. We were standing along the side of the pool and she hugged me and straddled me and we did it in front of about 20 people. –Alex

We’re not talking about spin the bottle here. We’re talking about grown-up play time that will take foreplay to new levels of pleasure. Try out a couple of these games on your next tryst and let us know how it goes.

Lights Out: For this game, you’ll need to bring two flashlights to bed and turn out all the lights. Tell your partner to shine a light on the parts of their body that he or she wants you to lick or suck. While you’re licking away, they should shine the flashlight on you so they can see what you’re up to down there in the dark. When it’s your turn, shine your flashlight on spots you’d like them to taste. Finally, once it’s time to get down to business, point the flashlight down south so you don’t miss a second of the penetrating action.

Blind Man in the Buff: You’ll need a scarf, a man’s necktie or a blindfold to play this game. Blindfold your partner and lead them to the bed. Once you’ve got them there, take the time to ravish them slowly.  Since they can’t see what you’re doing to them (or about to do to them), it dramatically increases both sensitivity and psychological vulnerability. Both are powerful aphrodisiacs and together, they can create an explosion!

Naked Twister: A sexy twist on an old favorite. The Kama Sutra of board games, all you need for the naked version is the Twister board and nothing else (and we mean NOTHING!). Spin the wheel and place your hands and feet where the wheel tells you to, making sure not to fall over. And in this version of the game, you can distract your opponent by licking, nuzzling, kissing, and tickling. Last man (or woman) standing wins – who are we kidding, there are no losers in this game.

Truth or Dare?: Here’s another oldie but goodie, and now with an adult twist. To play, all you need is a good imagination and a healthy sexual appetite. A great way to find out a few new things about your partner, Truth or Dare lets you ask all the naughty things you’ve been dreaming about. For dare, ask for a striptease or lap dance, and for truth, a good place to start is sex fantasies and desires. If you don’t want to ask or answer about past sexual escapades, set a rule from the get-go that former flings are off-limits.

Close Shave: All you need are scissors, a brand-new razor and shaving cream – oh, and a steady hand. First, take a hot bath to soften your skin and hair. Second, use scissors to trim the length. Third, lie on the bed or on a table and let the shaving expert foam you up and shave you. It’s scary at first, but relax and let your partner go to work on you. They can shave everything or just neaten you up. Once you’ve shaved, get decorated with the edible treat.

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Let’s just get this out in the open before we go any further – asking a potential tryst what time their legs open will not get you very far. If you’re looking for idiot-proof ways to break the ice, we’ve got some handy tips to try out.

Keep your cool and your confidence: First of all, you had the guts to approach or start a conversation with a stranger, so good for you – it’s to your credit that you’re even trying. Try to keep it light, funny and easy. If you’re doing it in person, be aware of your body language, as it says a lot about how relaxed or nervous you are, so stand tall, shoulders back, chest out, hands at your sides, make eye contact and smile.

Find a line that works: If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it. You should have two or three great lines as stand-bys. If not, questions are a good fall-back tactic, but keep them low-investment. This will keep the questions from seeming too intimidating to answer. Most important here is that you want to make that other person feel as comfortable as possible, so approach the conversation with the intention that you have something to offer them.

The most effective pick-up line ever… is a simple “Hi”. Nothing fancy, practiced or artificial, it’s just an opening. From there, introduce yourself, and chances are, they will return the courtesy. Just remember KISS: Keep it simple, stupid. “Hi, my name is…” is a great conversation starter because it’s genuine and straight to the point. There are no pick up lines here, just one person who wants to make a connection with another. Sometimes just saying “hello” or “what’s up?” is the best way to break the ice. If they don’t return the pleasantries, you’ve got a pretty clear indication that it’s not going anywhere. Which brings us to…

Know when to fold them: You can tell when it’s not going your way. If, after two or three of your funny lines, that person’s eyes glaze over and they yawn, it’s time to exit, stage right. If they are not helping you out with positive encouragement either verbally or with body language, it’s time to say, “Nice meeting you” and walk away. On to the next one!

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We’re not talking about urban legends like the one about the dog that licks peanut butter off your naughty bits – there are a lot of sex myths floating around out there. It’s important to know what’s true and what’s false before you tryst, so we wanted to take the time to clear up a few of the biggies.

Men want sex more than women: Huge myth! Fact is, the ladies like it just as much. It’s just that women tend to be thinking about other things, like how tired they are after a day of work and cleaning the house. Add to all that is the fact that hormones play a big role in how much they want to get it on – like during certain times of the month, rather than all of the time. Plus, since women attach more emotions to sex, they aren’t going to beg for action if he’s been acting like a dink.

If you’re happy and you know it, you must be having sex: It’s a popular misconception that happy couples must be having good sex most of the time. It’s hard to find a couple who have been together for a long period of time that is still having raw, uncaged sex every single night for years and years. Anyone who claims to be having constantly mind-blowing sex after being married with kids for 10 years may be telling the truth – but chances are they’re going at it with someone other than their spouse.

Men are more promiscuous than women: Okay, so there’s a kernel of truth behind this one, but the truth is, it’s much less than you think. When polled about their sex lives, men overestimate while women underestimate, due to societal pressures. You also have to factor in how attractive the people in question are. An attractive and sexually motivated woman is likely to have had more partners than a not-so-great-looking guy around the same age. It’s all about opportunity.

Women don’t like porn or dirty sex. A flat out myth! Every woman is different, but there are more than a few who just want to be thrown on the bed for a raunchy romp – no rose petals on the bed or sweet talk needed. So rest assured that men aren’t the only ones dreaming of dirty, dirty sex.

Men are always ready for and want sex. Unless you’re a 17-year-old who’s just landed his first girlfriend, you don’t fall into this category. Once a man hits his mid-20s, other parts of his life start to become equally as important as sex, and that means energy and focus is needed elsewhere. Real life dampens a lot of men’s sex drive – work, stress, pressure, bills and arguments. It’ll put a kibosh on the friskiest of men.

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