Feel like you’re stuck in a rut? Bring your “A” game to the bedroom with some new positions that’ll have ‘em screaming for more! Here’s a list of some new moves to try out during your next tryst:
Bent Spoon BENEFITS: This rear entry position gives you unlimited access to her chest and neck, and offers less of a penetration angle. HOW-TO: To get started, lie on a bed, with her lying in line on top of you, facing the same way, with her knees bent into her chest as well as arms stretched out (you should be staring at the back of her head). She won’t have much leverage, so you’ll be in charge of the thrusting. Don’t forget to let you hands explore every inch of her body while in motion.
Forbidden Fruit BENEFIT: An easy twist on a female favorite will have her screaming for more, plus it’s an awesome way to score brownie points. HOW TO: If you’re a man who prides himself on liking to give more than to receive, you’ll want to add this move into your rotation. With the option of performing cunnilingus and/or analingus, she must lie on her front, knees positioned up and out, with a pillow under her stomach, exposing her rear. You kneel behind and between her legs – then just start licking away! ADDED BONUS: Since she can’t see you, she won’t know what’s coming!
Prison Guard BENEFIT: You’ll be able to go in for easier and deeper penetration. HOW TO: A doggie style position, stand behind your partner and have her bend at the waist so her face reaches her knees (she should remain standing as well). Once she has “assumed the position” pull her arms back gently and “cuff” her wrists with your hands. Feel free to waive her right to remain silent!
The Butterfly BENEFIT: Easy to do on any piece of furniture. HOW TO: Get her to lie on her back on the edge of bed and plant her feet on the floor. You kneel or stand between her legs to penetrate. Get her to manually stimulate herself for even more pleasure. TIP: If this is uncomfortable for you, kneel on a pillow.
The Lotus BENEFIT: An intimate position, the Lotus allows you to constantly kiss or whisper naughty thoughts in your partner’s ear. HOW TO: You sit cross-legged on the bed, and have her climb on your lap facing you. She should then wrap her legs around you, while both of your hold on to each other. Finally, start rocking back and forth in a fluid motion for penetration.
Pearly Gates BENEFITS: Another great way to feel up your date, thanks to full and open chest access. HOW TO: Lie down on your back and have her lie in line on top of you. Both of you should bend you legs at the knee, with her legs outside of yours. Have her stretch out her arms, which allows you to massage and stroke her body. Most of the penetration comes from you, but once you get a steady pace going, her body movements will soon match yours. Then, get ready to shout “hallelujah!”
Wheel Barrel BENEFIT: Works equally well for vaginal or anal penetration, and sets you up to go deep. HOW TO: Remember the wheel barrel races from when you were a kid? It just got better! Have your partner get down on all fours. Come from behind, pick up her legs and have her support herself with her arms, while holding her legs at your waist. If her arms get tired, have her lay flat on a bed or chair.
Thanks to sexinfo101.com for the awesome positions!
Tryst dates are hard enough without the added pressure of picking a place to host it. We here at Tryst have put together a list of tried-and-tested great date destinations that will provide a stressless backdrop to your get-together.
Bowling: There’s no better way to bowl your date over (sorry, we couldn’t resist). But seriously, bowling is a great place to just get to know someone better. Think about it: It’s pretty hard to take yourself seriously when you’re wearing rented shoes and dining on a feast of beer and nachos. The laidback atmosphere at an alley is very conducive for letting your hair down, relaxing and just being yourself. And with no dress code to worry about, you can feel confident you’ll fit right in with jeans and a T-shirt.
Drive-in Movie: If you’re lucky enough to still have them in your area, go retro and bring your squeeze to a drive-in movie. The movies they screen range from classic to relatively new releases, and the best part is you can talk, make out and throw popcorn at each other in the comfort of your own vehicle. Added bonus points if your seats recline all the way down!
Go-Karting: You remember how much fun this was when you were a kid? A great way to test drive you date’s sense of fun and adventure, go-karting let’s you inner-child take over for an evening. Money wise, it’s pretty cheap and it’s a great chance to show off your mad NASCAR skills.
Wine tasting: Show your date how refined you are by taking them to a local winery. You can schedule the tour after dinner or on its own – either way, you should go on a full stomach. Sexy and sophisticated, a date at the winery is fairly inexpensive, so you can use the extra cash to by a bottle of your favorite vintage to take home and share.
Karaoke: The ancient art of making an ass of yourself is an awes first date idea. What a great way to see if your date is uptight or is willing to put themselves at the mercy of a drunk crowd just for the hell of it. If they need a little prompting to get onto the stage, don’t take “But I can’t sing” as an excuse – suggest a duet so the two of you can let loose together.
Miniature Golf: Do a little investigating online and you’ll find a cheesy mini putt course in your area. Even ones with a kiddie theme are fine. Just wait until the sun goes down, as most places feature some mood lighting. The second best time you’ll have slapping your balls around.
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Variety is the spice of life – and that goes for sex too. Before you’re time is up, make sure you get you freak on in the following places.
The hood of a car: Alternately, you could use the back of a pick-up truck, for a little added privacy, but for those of you who like the thrill of full exposure, the hood of a car is one of the hottest places to do it (especially if you’ve just parked it after a long drive) to do it. Never mind the back seat – that was so 9th grade. You may want to spread a blanket on the hood to avoid a stuck ass, but then again, the suction provides a better grip when thrusting.
On a hike: Ahhh, nothing like a little fresh air and exercise to get you horny. The next time you hit the trails with your honey, plan on being one with nature while you’re au natural. You can do it standing up and leaning against a tree, or find a secluded patch of grass and stretch out a blanket. Either way, look out for angry mama bears, poisonous plants and pervy park rangers before you get busy.
An exercise bench: We’re not talking about your local gym here – this is one you can do in your own home. An awesome way to work up a sweat and burn off some calories, use your exercise equipment in ways you’ve never thought of before. Take the bench – soft and padded, the bench is adjustable, so you can lay it flat down or move it to the seated position. You get extra sexy points if your home gym has mirrors on every wall!
In an elevator: Aerosmith knew what they were talking about when they wrote “Love in an Elevator”. Most buildings have them (unless you’re in a walk-up, then improvises just do it in the stairwell), and if you’re lucky your office has one (for a nooner you don’t have to leave work for). Don’t expect anything more than a quickie, especially if the building experiences a lot of traffic, and be sure to check for video cameras, otherwise you may just be in for a surprise when you open the doors and step out to applause from the security guards.
In a restaurant: Sometimes, you just can’t wait until the check arrives. That’s when it’s time to throw your partner a knowing looking and head to the restroom for a little à la cart sex. Try to do it before dessert, that way you can work up an appetite for something sweet. This type of rendezvous is tricky to pull off, but you may be in luck if the restaurant isn’t too busy and it has stalls for privacy.
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Losing weight, finding a new job, spending more time with family and friends. Those are the same old boring resolutions you make every year. Now a show of hands – who actually follows through on them? Yep, we thought so. We thought we’d offer you some trysting resolutions that’ll be fun to keep – enjoy our list of sexual things to do in 2010.
Sex in a car: When was the last time you got into the back seat and did the nasties? High school? It’s time to polish off that old favorite because it’s due for a comeback. Having sex in a car screams spontaneous – it’s fun, you don’t need a room reservation and there’s always the thrill of getting caught. And don’t limit it to the back seat – recline the front seat or get/give a BJer while parked on the side of the road. The possibilities are endless!
Have sex with a co-worker: Have you been dreaming about the sexy guy in accounts receivable, or that hot girl in marketing, but just haven’t had the nerve to take it to the next level? Make this the year that you break out of your shell, flirt shamelessly with them and bend them over your boss’ desk (hopefully while your boss is out of the office for the day). Having a fling with a co-worker makes the work day that much more interesting – just keep those dirty emails to a minimum!
Have a one-night stand: Ahhhh, remember your drunken college days. Ok, we don’t either, but we have blurry recollections of the one-nighters we used to pull. And there’s nothing quite like the ego-boost of a random pick-up for casual sex that will make you feel sexy and alive. It can be at a bar, the grocery store or even someone you met over the Internet. Just make sure it only lasts one night and never speak to them again – then cross it off your resolutions list.
Buy a new sex toy: Sure, we all have the reliable old rabbit or handy sleeve, but make this the year to expand your toy box and add something totally new to your night stand drawer. It needs to be a toy you normally wouldn’t think about owning, whether it’s ben-wa balls, anal plugs or a starter bondage kit. That’s what makes it such a leap – trying something different, perhaps loving it and adding it into your regular rotation.
Shave it off: This year, try something new with your pubes. If you normally just trim, go get a Brazilian. Already get it all shaved off? Let it grow in a bit and opt for a sassy heart or lightning bolt shape shaved in your furry patch. If you don’t like it, the good thing is it will all grow back soon enough.
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Experts say when the economy is in the dumps, our libidos go into overdrive – who knew? Given the uncertainty in the near and possible dreary future, life seems so much easier when there’s someone by your side. But how do you meet and impress a potential partner when you don’t want to shell out big bucks? Tryst.com offers some solutions for value-conscious daters.
Online is where it’s at: Why would you drop a big chunk of change at a bar when you can go online for a fraction of that? You’re taking a chance when you rely on picking up at a bar – shelling out cash to buy drinks for yourself and someone else who may turn out to be a dud. It’s a smarter choice to invest in a site where you know the type of person you’re looking for is going to be. It’s a relatively inexpensive way to meet people – plus, with less people going to clubs, where do you think they are going? Yep, they’re online!
Added Bonus: You can get to know someone first before committing to that potentially expensive first date.
Rub-a-dub: Light a few candles, pour in the Mr. Bubbles and get naked – a romantic bath for two is an inexpensive date that is guaranteed to end well. Turn on some sultry jazz to set the sexy mood, and if you’ve got a couple extra bucks to shell out, splurge on a low-priced bottle of vino. If you don’t have a tub, a shower works just as well and produces the same end result – the two of you will be naked and wet. Once the water starts to cool, towel each other off and see where that takes you!
Added Bonus: You’ll be multi-tasking by getting clean while getting down.
Cheap Thrill: Forget impressing your partner with an all-inclusive holiday to the Bahamas. Unleash you inner dirty self and rent a trashy hotel room for a night (or a couple of hours!) You can turn it into a fantasy getaway – she’s the hooker, he’s the horny john. When it comes to role-playing, let your imagination run wild! Besides, a trashy hotel holds a certain thrill that a pricey suite can never match.
Added Bonus: Not having to clean up after you’ve done the deed.
Sexy Game Night: We’re not talking about Spin the Bottle! Head to your neighborhood sex store or any number of online shops and pick up an adult-themed game. There are so many to choose from, but don’t let the selection confuse you – pick one or two you can use over and over and over again. Sure, you have to pay the initial cost, but think of it as an investment in entertaining foreplay that will last you long after the recession is a distant memory. A few to consider include Truth or Dare, The Kama Sutra Game and 52 Weeks of Naughty Nights.
Added Bonus: If being competitive gets you off, you’ll be turned on in more ways than one.
Make it a Blockbuster night: Have you exhausted your porn collection and don’t want to rent or buy anything new? Make your own! Get creative – come up with a cheesy plot or just roll the camera and let nature take over. Don’t like the last take? No problem – you just keep shooting the scene until you get it right. Once you’re done, you’ve got a memento to treasure for a lifetime – plus, you can use it for your own pleasure if you find yourself without a leading partner.
Added Bonus: Since porn requires little to no clothes, you won’t have to worry about running up an expensive costume budget.
And the most inexpensive date of all…: Happens in the bedroom – no reservations required! There are so many fun and free things to do – give your partner a massage (complete with “Happy Ending”), practice your mattress gymnastic skills or make the most of your bedroom furniture by having sex on, in or underneath it. Sex is much cheaper than a fancy meal – and instead of gaining weight with all of those rich calories, you’re burning fat. So cancel your gym membership and take your workout into the bedroom
Added Bonus: Save on heating costs by snuggling with a lover.
There’s no reason to cite the recession as an excuse to stop trysting. Now you can impress your date not just your love-making skills, but also your money-saving ones too!
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In the wake of the Tiger Woods sex scandal, we wonder if any celebrity trysts in recent history ever came close to blowing up as big as this one. There are a few that come to mind – take a trip down memory lane as we explore a few that had us gossiping at the water cooler.
David Letterman: Just this year, David Letterman surprised everyone when he made a statement on his show admitting to an affair with a co-worker. Letterman came clean due to a blackmail attempt and even apologized to his wife on air (which probably saved him a golf club upside his vehicle). The woman in question was Stephanie Birkitt, his former assistant as well as ex-girlfriend of the accused extortionist, Robert Halderman. It looks like he’s sticking with his marriage, as there’s been no high-profile divorce talk as of yet.
David Duchovny: After years of sex addition and reported cheating, Duchovny checked himself into rehab after his wife, actress Tea Leoni, filed for separation. The actor, who plays a sex-obsessed womanizer in TV series Californication, came clean because the tabloids where about to release their own story. We are happy to say the Duchovny and Leoni are still together and are getting ready to renew the wedding vows.
Kobe Bryant: In 2004, a hotel employee accused Kobe of sexually assaulting her. And how did Kobe react? He bought his wife a $4 million diamond ring. His wife stayed, and Kobe settled out of court with the woman in question. The ring must have erased her memory, because Kobe’s wife is still around (and sporting that honking piece of bling!).
Hugh Grant: This Brit was a bad boy in 1995 when he was picked up by police with hooker Divine Brown in Hollywood. At the time, he was dating actress and former model Liz Hurley, who stayed with him several years after he was caught with his pants down. Two weeks after the incident, he admitted his wrong doing on the Jay Leno Show and made no excuses for his behavior.
Charlie Sheen: He might be happily married now, but Sheen as seen his share of sex scandal. In 1995, a woman sued him and said that he had struck her in the head when she refused to have sex with him. Soon after, it was revealed during the trial of Hollywood madam Heidi Fleiss that Sheen had shelled out some $50,000 for ordering her call girls more than 20 times.
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They say the fastest way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. There’s some truth behind it, and it works for both men and women. Try these libido enhancing appetizers before your next Tryst to get your motor revving.
Oysters: The most common food associated with aphrodisiacs, oysters may have their potent reputation because their shape resembles female naughty bits. While there’s no scientific evidence that they pump your performance, they do have high zinc content, a mineral that is essential to testosterone production and the maintenance of healthy and happy sperm.
Watermelon: Seriously! In fact, a recent study suggested this juicy fruit may induce Viagra-like effects. Watermelon contains large amounts of citrulline, a plant nutrient that boosts the cardiovascular and immune systems and can relax blood vessels to improve blood flow. Unfortunately, the citrulline doesn’t necessarily go straight to your junk and to get to this ambrosia, you’ll have to munch on its rind – and since it’s pretty much inedible, we wouldn’t recommend it.
Chocolate: Although some may choose chocolate over sex, this tasty treat has been a sweet aphrodisiac for centuries. Containing mood enhancers including phenylethylamine, serotonin and anandamide, when released in our bodies, can make us feel happy, passionate and lustful. Guys – to get her going, spread a little chocolate trail down to your treasure – by the time she gets there, chances are she’ll be hungry for more!
Chili Peppers: A sure way to get you red hot is to add chili peppers to your pre-coitus meal. Chock full of capsaicin, a chemical that stimulates nerve endings, you’ll notice you pulse will race and you’ll be sweating up a storm – this is similar to the body’s response to sexual arousal. It also improves your blood circulation, which can cause erogenous zones to become sensitive to any form of stimulation. However, if you have a sensitive stomach, eating spicy chili peppers can cause the opposite effect – there’s nothing like bad gas to kill the mood!
Asparagus: It may make your pee smell funny, but asparagus can have a powerful affect on your sex life. It’s not their phallic shape that will get you off – asparagus is rich in vitamin E which is considered to stimulate production of sex hormones. Try eating it raw or streamed – when boiled, it tends to lose its aphrodisiac powers.
Carrots: They’re not just good for your eyes – they’re also good for your peen. Carrots started stimulating in ancient times – in the Middle East, they were used by royalty to aid in seduction. Mimicking the shape of a penis, carrots contain high-fiber – who knew fiber was good for more than BMs! Just one more reason why it’s important to eat all your vegetables!
Bananas: We’ve all seen the video where a girl deep-throats a banana, but it reality, this fruit is a natural aphrodisiac that has a lot to offer. Full of potassium and vitamin B – necessities for sex hormone production – the banana has been used as a sex aid (in more ways than one) around the world. Even today, bananas are used in India as offerings to the fertility gods. Another plus is that it contains three types of sugar – fructose, sucrose and glucose – an awesome way to keep your energy up for the active evening ahead.
Almonds: Forgoing the obvious joke about nuts, almonds are good for peens and virility. They contain arginine, an amino acid that is crucial to erections and has been scientifically proven to increase their frequency and duration. There’s no food preparation involved, so grab a handful in between sex sessions to keep up your stamina.
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Just because you’re all grown up doesn’t mean you have to stop playing with toys. So put down the Mr. Potato Head and fill your toy box with some must-have tools for your next Tryst.
Jack Rabbit Vibrator: An essential, the “Rabbit” is probably the first vibrator you ever bought… and for good reason. This powerful vibe hits all the right places and is built tough to deliver a lifetime of orgasms. Get your rocks off with synchronized rotating metal beads and six different vibration and rotation speeds! If you want to go beyond basic, try the new cordless and waterproof version for even wetter fun!
The Big O Vibrating Cock Ring: Oh baby! We love ourselves a good cock ring, and the Big O is one of our faves. Why? To start, it’s super-stretchy, reusable and has nine different auto-changeable speeds! An added bonus is its specially enhanced silicone gel ring that stimulates the clitoris with extended ticklers for superior orgasms. It’s the toy that will have the both of you making an “O” face to remember.
Fleshlight: If you haven’t experienced the pleasures of a Fleshlight yet, you don’t know what you’ve been missing! Now available in a variety of different orifices and porn stars, there’s a Fleshlight for every occasion. Designed to recreate the velvet texture of a vagina, this toy offers an incredibly realistic sensation.
Wet Together Lubricant: A new couple’s lubricant, Together comes with two bottles of 2 fl oz bottles – one for him (blue) and one for her (pink). Her lube gently tingles when he applies it, while his will gently heat on contact. Offering longer lasting, silky smooth lubrication and sensation, Wet Together goes on silky and clean (no gloopiness, which is important in a lube), it’s hypoallergenic, odorless and colorless once on, and will not harm latex. When you’re all done, it washes away easily with mild soap and water – no fuss, no muss.
Aneros Prostate Stimulator: Men, for an orgasm like no other, the Aneros Prostate Stimulator will never steer you wrong. Designed to stimulate the prostate both internally and externally, its curly handles allow the wearer or a partner to rock the toy back and forth, and the long forward handle presses into the perineum (the area between the anus and balls) creating added stimulation to the internal root of the penis.
We Vibe: Hands free, strap free and wireless We Vibe is soft and conforms to the female shape, making it comfortable and easy to use. Its tapered “tear drop” shape naturally hugs a woman’s G-Spot while she’s having sex. The We Vibe’s internal G-Spot vibrator motor provides stimulation directly to the G-Spot, while the Clitoral Pad nestles in between the labia and the clitoris. It’ll have her screaming “WEEEEEEEE” in no time!
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When you’ve found someone to Tryst with, sometimes you wish you could go back and relive the good times over and over again – with the ability to fast forward through all the slow parts. Here’s an idea – record your sexy times to enjoy time and time again (even when the time comes to let your Tryst go). Set up the tripod and put these tips into practice.
Clarity is key: Make sure your video camera is focused. Fuzzy is not a turn on. You can use a tripod or set the camera on something solid, like a desk or chair. If you’re directing from POV, keep a steady hand so you don’t get motion sick.
Audio is encouraged: It adds to your video’s allure, and reminds you just how much you enjoyed yourself. Plus, dialogue takes your video to the next level – feel free to improvise and say whatever is on your mind.
Lights, camera, action: Make sure you use a light source so you can actually see what’s going on. In this genre, low lighting works too, but be careful not to make it so dark, so you can’t see what’s going on. Use candles or a dimmer to set the mood.
Just be yourself and have fun! You know what they say: “Dance like there’s no one watching.” The same applies to sex. Give a playful wave to the camera, laugh, instruct, do something new. For years to come you’ll look back on video with fond memories – and it may inspire you to film some new ones!
Score points for originality: Before you get started, jot out a few key points you’d like to touch on (no pun intended). You don’t need a cheesy plot to get it rolling, unless that’s the kind of porn movie you want to make – if you really make it cheesy, it will be a memorable one!
Edit your videos: Easy to use and available readily, digital editing programs allow you to cut the fat out of your movies. Made a mistake? No problem – as director, you have complete creative control over your film. It also allows you to cut down on time and filter content, as well as lets you use different types of shots and positions.
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Looking for Trysts in all the wrong places? The gang here at Tryst have complied their list of the top 5 pick-up spots where you could meet your next passionate partner!
1. Online: Just a few short years ago, nobody would ever say they met a date over the Internet (even though we were all doing it!). Today, and especially in these trying economic times, online dating is the fiscally responsible choice and the #1 spot for meeting people. If you’re looking for something a little more risqué than your run-of-the-mill dating site, try an adult dating community. One that we love is XXXBlackBook.com. With over 3 million members lookin’ for some lovin’, there is no shortage of hot guys and girls to hook up with. Try the IM or Video Chat features, which let you connect with potential Trysts instantly.
2. Work: This may not fly in a smaller company (like here in the Tryst offices) but larger ones are a hot bed of Trysting activity just waiting to happen. These companies often feature a variety of departments you never interact with. Try taking your break or lunch at a different time than normal, as there’s usually a rotating group of new faces. Now that the weather’s warming up, go for a walk outside – there’s also great potential from other companies located close to yours, all outdoors enjoying the good weather. And if things don’t work out with your coworker, don’t worry – since the company is large, there’s a good chance you won’t see them that often.
3. Sporting Activities: Forget the gym – smart Trysters are dropping the dumbbells and joining a sports-related group. There are so many to choose from – Learn to Run clinics, beach volleyball, ultimate Frisbee – so you’ll find one that speaks to your skill level. An added bonus is the other members of your team or league are fairly fit, have lots of energy, and most important of all, have plenty of stamina to keep going and going and going… all night long!
4. Grocery store: Hey, everyone’s gotta eat – even Trysters. That’s why your local grocery store is a great place to pick up. But be forewarned – the “nice melons” pick-up line doesn’t work anymore (Wait… did it ever work?). If you see someone you like, start a conversation about food – what wine goes with what main course, have they tried a certain food product, or point at something in their cart and ask what aisle they got it from because you’ve always wanted to try it.
5. Volunteer: Exposing your sensitive side is sometimes the quickest way to get someone to expose their private parts. Sign up to feed the kittens or walk the dogs at your community pet shelter, join a cleaning crew to pick up litter or spend a Thanksgiving packing or serving food to the homeless. While you’re knee deep in philanthropic duties, there’s no better time to bring up the “tragic plight of the so-and-so cause,” which can lead you to donate your sexy charitable services at their place. Added bonus: Tout your mad humanitarian skills at parties, gatherings and other social functions to earn the sensitive vote that always pays off in the bedroom.
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