Let’s just get this out in the open before we go any further – asking a potential tryst what time their legs open will not get you very far. If you’re looking for idiot-proof ways to break the ice, we’ve got some handy tips to try out.

Keep your cool and your confidence: First of all, you had the guts to approach or start a conversation with a stranger, so good for you – it’s to your credit that you’re even trying. Try to keep it light, funny and easy. If you’re doing it in person, be aware of your body language, as it says a lot about how relaxed or nervous you are, so stand tall, shoulders back, chest out, hands at your sides, make eye contact and smile.

Find a line that works: If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it. You should have two or three great lines as stand-bys. If not, questions are a good fall-back tactic, but keep them low-investment. This will keep the questions from seeming too intimidating to answer. Most important here is that you want to make that other person feel as comfortable as possible, so approach the conversation with the intention that you have something to offer them.

The most effective pick-up line ever… is a simple “Hi”. Nothing fancy, practiced or artificial, it’s just an opening. From there, introduce yourself, and chances are, they will return the courtesy. Just remember KISS: Keep it simple, stupid. “Hi, my name is…” is a great conversation starter because it’s genuine and straight to the point. There are no pick up lines here, just one person who wants to make a connection with another. Sometimes just saying “hello” or “what’s up?” is the best way to break the ice. If they don’t return the pleasantries, you’ve got a pretty clear indication that it’s not going anywhere. Which brings us to…

Know when to fold them: You can tell when it’s not going your way. If, after two or three of your funny lines, that person’s eyes glaze over and they yawn, it’s time to exit, stage right. If they are not helping you out with positive encouragement either verbally or with body language, it’s time to say, “Nice meeting you” and walk away. On to the next one!

In Tryst we Trust