The rush of forbidden acts. The longing that comes from waiting. Here are 4 ways that affair sex trumps sex with your wife or husband.


Everything is new and exciting

 Just like how kids get sick of playing with the same old toys, even though they might have an old favorite, it’s hard to resist the allure of something shiny and new. With an affair partner, everything is new again. The way their body feels, the way they smell, the way they laugh. The intrigue of meeting someone new comes from the air of mystery. You don’t’ know how they are going to taste or how it feels to hold their hand. With your partner, these things are old news. The best part about having an affair partner is that they can be replaced, with some work.


New places to do the dirty

The game of cheating hearts is not for the unimaginative. Since you can’t bring your affair partner around to any place your partner might frequent, you have to get a little creative with where to meet up. Think of how great hotel sex is, and then imagine having that every time you see your affair partner. The excitement comes from having sex in a new place, and that’s pretty much all you’re doing with your new sex partner. Go on and enjoy!


Explore your fantasies

When you’re in a long and stable relationship, it can be difficult to sexually try new things, because you and your partner have likely developed some sort of routine-sex that might be pretty vanilla by now. The hard part is bringing up new things to try for fear of feeling vulnerable and being judged. When you have an affair, trying out new fantasies are often easier. In an affair, you are more carefree and that means in bed too. You can express your desires and fantasies without being worried about rejection because you’re not going to spend the rest of your life with them anyway. Give threesomes, sex games, role playing, or BDSM a try. There’s tons of ways to spice up your sex life.


No emotional baggage

Sometimes out-of-bed problems can find their way into they bedroom anyway. Problems with finance, relationship issues, or just one too kids’ birthday parties can tire you out and leave you ambivalent to having sex with your partner. Time spent away from your family and with your affair partner instead is more free and easy. You don’t have the awkwardness of your last disagreement, the everyday nagging, and the endless to-do lists looming over you. It’s no wonder the sex is better.