We all know someone who is an excellent gift giver. Somehow, they have this uncanny ability to know when to reference an inside joke, when to get you the thing you just really needed, or when to get you something to cheer you up. Not only do they have timing right, their choice in gift is oh-so-right too. For the rest of us that don’t have this special power, here are 10 gift ideas to get your affairs partner something nice for the holidays.

  1. Plan an afternoon of holiday fun. Pick up eggnog, rum, cider, or make a big batch of mulled wine. Cozy up by the fireplace and build a gingerbread house.
  2. Is there somewhere they had always wanted to visit? A chalet in the mountains or maybe a tropical resort? For a big-ticket gift, plan a special trip for two. Check that they’re free for the duration, and tell them to pack a bag and passport but you can keep the location secret for the surprise.
  3. Perfume can be hard to get right, but it’s an easy way to get them thinking of you. When they wear it, they’ll get whiffs of it throughout the day and be reminded of the wonderful gift you got them.
  4. Get them something that reminds them of a funny moment or inside joke between the two of you.
  5. Give them tickets to a play or a show they had always wanted to go to.
  6. Recreate the first date you’ve ever been on. This works for anniversaries too (if you celebrate that kind of thing with your affairs partner).
  7. Dine in the comfort of your own home. Cook them a four-course meal complete with amuse bouche, appetizer, a main, and dessert. Decorate tables with holiday inspired décor. If you’re a terrible cook, hire a private chef to prepare the meal.
  8. Head to your local holiday festival or market to enjoy some mulled wine and roasted turkey legs. Shop for last minute gifts or locally made ornaments.
  9. Plan a sexy night in by gifting body oils, lingerie, and toys.
  10. Book massages for two to help you unwind after the holiday hustle and bustle.