Happy New Year from the team at Tryst.com! Do you have any new year’s resolutions? We’re strong believers in starting fresh in the new year with new flings. If you’ve been eyeing a cutie at the office or online, now is the time to spark up conversation and try your hand at acquiring a new affair partner. Besides, there’s nothing wrong with expanding your dating pool. Whether you want to send them a text or send them a message online, here are some things to keep in mind when you’re crafting your very first message.


Pick a Talking Point

To stand out from other people vying for their attention, your message should be direct and interesting. Many times, meandering hellos and self-professed awkwardness is detrimental in garnering a reply. If you like their smile, tell them you like their smile. If you would like to take them out for a drink, say so. Remember, the only time being direct fails, is when you are disrespectful.


Mention Common Interests

If their profile indicates they have shared interests with you, then this is a great talking point to pick out for your first message. If it’s a television show, mention who your favorite character is or one of your favorite moments. Perhaps you both run marathons, and have ran in the same one in the past without knowing. Whatever it is you have in common, it’s a smart move to mention it to bridge the gap between total stranger to potential fling.


Go Beyond “Hey, what’s up?”

When they receive upwards of 20 messages a day from potential matches, chances are the ones that say, “Hey, what’s up?” won’t get a reply. Once you’ve figured out a talking point, which could include mention of common interests, your chances of getting a reply will be much higher.