Okay. You’ve been thinking you might cheat on your partner. Maybe you’ve been eyeing a cutie at work or a hot young bartender who you’re sure has the hots for you. You’re pretty sure it’s not nothing, but unsure of what to do next.

Start by flirting back. There’s nothing wrong with a little harmless flirting to see if they’re truly interested. Make sure you’re clear about what you’re looking for, whether it’s a one night stand or an affair relationship. If there’s something really there, you’ve got some planning to do especially if you don’t want to get caught cheating.

Learn how to cover your tracks. This is arguably the part where most people screw up. Think of all the elements you have interacted with during the course of your cheat session. Did you use your credit card? Did you fill up your gas at a gas station out of your way? Did you drive through any area where your car would be recognized? These are the kinds of things you need to consider and deal with accordingly. Instead of using your credit card, use cash. This way it is more difficult to determine where you spent your money.

Choosing a place and time can be challenging. You need a neutral space, preferably somewhere you would not usually go. This is particularly important so you do not get seen by family, friends, or co-workers. If you are choosing a public space, like a restaurant or a bar, you need to ensure that this is a place no one will know you at or find a more private area of the restaurant or bar to be in. Private places like hotels or motels will give you the privacy you need to truly be intimate. Next month we’ll dive deeper into where you can go to get down and dirty, so stay tuned.