Establish the Rules: We can’t stress this one enough. Before starting, understand everyone’s rules and limits, so you can respect comfort levels and have fun. In regards to your main partner, the relationship will be affected by the threesome, so be clear on what you can and can’t do during the experience. Someone may get jealous, so try not to pay too much attention to the new partner in the threesome. Remember, the fun of a threesome is to share sex between three people, so be respectful and everyone will have a good time.

Be a Giver: You may want to be the center of attention, but it’s not going to happen that way. To get over the disappointment, be generous. This means putting your hands and mouth into high gear and using them to turn your partners on.  Enjoy any attention that comes your way and reciprocate as much as you can.

Keep Busy: If you’re feeling a little left out, it’s time to keep busy (and no, this is not a good time to go make yourself a sandwich). Take the initiative and give yourself something to do, like fondling a body part or engaging in some oral sex. You can even pleasure yourself for a bit – it will probably turn your partners on to watch you.

Penetration Rules: As soon as there’s penetration, there’s someone being left out. So penetration should happen only when everyone is ready for it. If you’re the one with the penis, be sure to pay attention to both women. It’s natural to pay more attention to the person you’re penetrating, but it’s important to give the other women attention too. Kiss her, caress her and make her feel sexy. Because of this pleasure overload, make sure to take it slow and pace yourself so you don’t finish before everyone else is done (that’s just rude).

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Prepare her favorite meal: A man who knows his way around the kitchen is sexy – ask any woman. Find out what her favorite meal is and surprise her with it – you’ll be guaranteed to get a “good for one tryst” pass. Follow up the meal with her favorite coffee, drink or desert if you want to go the extra mile.

Write a hand-written letter: Sure, email and text has revolutionized the way we communicate, but nothing says romance like a love letter. Slip a hand-written note in the mail or under her door, and add some sexy narratives to it. It can be a love letter, an erotic fantasy, anything you want. You get extra points for using actual stationary or a note card.

Bring her a token present: Girls love getting gifts – especially ones for no reason. It doesn’t matter if they’re expensive or not – they just have to be thoughtful. So it can’t be a teddy bear, it needs to mean something to her. It could be something as simple as something she needs, like a flat iron or soap.

Dance with her: You can move your body in bed, but sometimes it’s ok to show her how you move your money maker. You don’t have to be out at the club – take her for a spin in the living room, on the street, pretty much anywhere spontaneous. All you need is some nice music and no one else in the general vicinity.

Give her a flower: This is another little gesture you can pull out of your hat for no occasion at all. Plus, it only has to be one flower, just make sure it’s original, like an orchid or a sunflower. Please note that dandelions and other weeds, as well as plastic flowers, won’t do in a pinch.

Pamper her: Women love to be pampered (just look at all the spas out there). After a long day, surprise her with a bubble bath, candles and chocolate-covered strawberries waiting tub-side. As she soaks, hop in and give her a massage. Finish it off by toweling her off and treating her to some hot oral sex. This one can’t fail.

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1.   Online: Just a few short years ago, nobody would ever say they met a date over the Internet (even though we were all doing it!). Today, and especially in these trying economic times, online dating is the fiscally responsible choice and the #1 spot for meeting people. Even if you’re looking for something a little more risqué than your run-of-the-mill dating site, an adult dating community is just what the doctor ordered.

2.   Work: This may not fly in a smaller company, but larger ones are a hot bed of sexy activity just waiting to happen. These companies often feature a variety of departments you never interact with. Try taking your break or lunch at a different time than normal, as there’s usually a rotating group of new faces. Go for a walk outside – there’s also great potential from other companies located close to yours, all outdoors enjoying the good weather. And if things don’t work out with your coworker, don’t worry – since the company is large, there’s a good chance you won’t see them that often.

3.    Sporting Activities: Forget the gym – smart trysters are dropping the dumbbells and joining a sports-related group. There are so many to choose from – Learn to Run clinics, beach volleyball, ultimate Frisbee – so you’ll find one that speaks to your skill level. An added bonus is the other members of your team or league are fairly fit, have lots of energy, and most important of all, have plenty of stamina to keep going and going and going… all night long!

4.    Grocery store: Hey, everyone’s gotta eat. That’s why your local grocery store is a great place to pick up. But be forewarned – the “nice melons” pick-up line doesn’t work anymore (Wait… did it ever work?). If you see someone you like, start a conversation about food – what wine goes with what main course, have they tried a certain food product, or point at something in their cart and ask what aisle they got it from because you’ve always wanted to try it.

5.    Volunteer: Exposing your sensitive side is sometimes the quickest way to get someone to expose their private parts. Sign up to feed the kittens or walk the dogs at your community pet shelter, join a cleaning crew to pick up litter or spend a Thanksgiving packing or serving food to the homeless. While you’re knee deep in philanthropic duties, there’s no better time to bring up the “tragic plight of the so-and-so cause,” which can lead you to donate your sexy charitable services at their place. Added bonus: Tout your mad humanitarian skills at parties, gatherings and other social functions to earn the sensitive vote that always pays off in the bedroom.

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In a stalled elevator stuck for an hour, there was nothing better to do with these two women. It was their 1st girl-on-girl experience. They were both 50′s, we laughed and meet later that evening… and a couple more times after that. — Tom

On top of my house, I was a little adventurous and decided to bring a sleeping bag to the roof to look at the stars. I laid it out, along with the girlfriend, and had sex from 12:15am to 2:30am, not caring how much noise was made. The next day my neighbor asked me how my night was, I said it was out of this world, and he smiled (I think he knew). –Doug

My lover at the time and I were walking by a set of outdoor handball courts in Coalinga. She suggested that we “have a little fun.” We slipped into the farthest one, laid our clothes on the cement floor, and began the loving. –Frank

In the men’s dormitory (separated by a rice-paper screen from my Math teacher and his wife, our chaperons), and then in the Tatami mat storage room, in the monastery in Nara National Park of Japan during a ShipSchool Association tour in 1970. –Tim

Under the boardwalk, Asbury Park, N.J., with people walking over head. No, we did not get caught. –Sarah

On my boss’s desk with his wife while he was out of state on business. –Ryan

My wife and I had sex on a pool table once. It was great, especially since we shouldn’t have been on a table in a public place – nobody came in, however. –Steven

The coolest place I’ve had sex was in a swimming pool full of people. We were standing along the side of the pool and she hugged me and straddled me and we did it in front of about 20 people. –Alex

Keep your cool and your confidence: First of all, you had the guts to approach or start a conversation with a stranger, so good for you – it’s to your credit that you’re even trying. Try to keep it light, funny and easy. If you’re doing it in person, be aware of your body language, as it says a lot about how relaxed or nervous you are, so stand tall, shoulders back, chest out, hands at your sides, make eye contact and smile.

Find a line that works: If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it. You should have two or three great lines as stand-bys. If not, questions are a good fall-back tactic, but keep them low-investment. This will keep the questions from seeming too intimidating to answer. Most important here is that you want to make that other person feel as comfortable as possible, so approach the conversation with the intention that you have something to offer them.

The most effective pick-up line ever… is a simple “Hi”. Nothing fancy, practiced or artificial, it’s just an opening. From there, introduce yourself, and chances are, they will return the courtesy. Just remember KISS: Keep it simple, stupid. “Hi, my name is…” is a great conversation starter because it’s genuine and straight to the point. There are no pick up lines here, just one person who wants to make a connection with another. Sometimes just saying “hello” or “what’s up?” is the best way to break the ice. If they don’t return the pleasantries, you’ve got a pretty clear indication that it’s not going anywhere. Which brings us to…

Know when to fold them: You can tell when it’s not going your way. If, after two or three of your funny lines, that person’s eyes glaze over and they yawn, it’s time to exit, stage right. If they are not helping you out with positive encouragement either verbally or with body language, it’s time to say, “Nice meeting you” and walk away. On to the next one!

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Bowling: There’s no better way to bowl your date over (sorry, we couldn’t resist). But seriously, bowling is a great place to just get to know someone better. Think about it: It’s pretty hard to take yourself seriously when you’re wearing rented shoes and dining on a feast of beer and nachos. The laidback atmosphere at an alley is very conducive for letting your hair down, relaxing and just being yourself. And with no dress code to worry about, you can feel confident you’ll fit right in with jeans and a T-shirt.

Drive-in Movie: If you’re lucky enough to still have them in your area, go retro and bring your squeeze to a drive-in movie. The movies they screen range from classic to relatively new releases, and the best part is you can talk, make out and throw popcorn at each other in the comfort of your own vehicle. Added bonus points if your seats recline all the way down!

Go-Karting: You remember how much fun this was when you were a kid? A great way to test drive you date’s sense of fun and adventure, go-karting let’s you inner-child take over for an evening. Money wise, it’s pretty cheap and it’s a great chance to show off your mad NASCAR skills.

Wine tasting: Show your date how refined you are by taking them to a local winery. You can schedule the tour after dinner or on its own – either way, you should go on a full stomach. Sexy and sophisticated, a date at the winery is fairly inexpensive, so you can use the extra cash to by a bottle of your favorite vintage to take home and share.

Karaoke: The ancient art of making an ass of yourself is an awes first date idea. What a great way to see if your date is uptight or is willing to put themselves at the mercy of a drunk crowd just for the hell of it. If they need a little prompting to get onto the stage, don’t take “But I can’t sing” as an excuse – suggest a duet so the two of you can let loose together.

Miniature Golf: Do a little investigating online and you’ll find a cheesy mini putt course in your area. Even ones with a kiddie theme are fine. Just wait until the sun goes down, as most places feature some mood lighting. The second best time you’ll have slapping your balls around.

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Clarity is key: Make sure your video camera is focused. Fuzzy is not a turn on. You can use a tripod or set the camera on something solid, like a desk or chair. If you’re directing from POV, keep a steady hand so you don’t get motion sick.

Audio is encouraged: It adds to your video’s allure, and reminds you just how much you enjoyed yourself.  Plus, dialogue takes your video to the next level – feel free to improvise and say whatever is on your mind.

Lights, camera, action: Make sure you use a light source so you can actually see what’s going on. In this genre, low lighting works too, but be careful not to make it so dark, so you can’t see what’s going on. Use candles or a dimmer to set the mood.

Just be yourself and have fun! You know what they say: “Dance like there’s no one watching.” The same applies to sex. Give a playful wave to the camera, laugh, instruct, do something new. For years to come you’ll look back on video with fond memories – and it may inspire you to film some new ones!

Score points for originality: Before you get started, jot out a few key points you’d like to touch on (no pun intended). You don’t need a cheesy plot to get it rolling, unless that’s the kind of porn movie you want to make – if you really make it cheesy, it will be a memorable one!

Edit your videos: Easy to use and available readily, digital editing programs allow you to cut the fat out of your movies. Made a mistake? No problem – as director, you have complete creative control over your film. It also allows you to cut down on time and filter content, as well as lets you use different types of shots and positions.

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• #10 “I’m here all my lonesome (sigh)”
  You’re most likely to here this line at a hotel bar. You’ll know for sure if they’re interested in a Tryst if they “accidentally” leave their room key behind when they leave.

• #9 “My husband/wife is out of town… for a long time”
  This line could be slipped into any conversation – at work, your kid’s soccer game, while grocery shopping. Why not offer to help around the house and see what transpires?

• #8 “I’ve always wanted to try a booty call”: There’s no reason why you can’t fulfill this person’s wish – your next night out, give them a call at 2 am and see how seriously they really were.

• #7 “I’m so mad at my girl/boyfriend right now – I just want to get even with them”
  A spur of the moment comment, you should throw out your idea for how they can get revenge right away, before it passes.

• #6 “My back is killing me! Can you give me a rub?”
  Tell them you’ll need their shirt off and plenty of oil.

• #5 “Don’t you wish you could be bad for just one day?”
  Why not make that day today?

• #4 “What my wife/husband doesn’t know, won’t hurt them”
  Unless, of course, they walk in on you – then you might be the one getting hurt.

• #3 “I’ll try anything… once”
  Does having a Tryst with me count?

• #2 “I have a walk-in shower, you could easily fit two people in there. You should come over and see it”
  What a coincidence, I’m feeling rather dirty.

• #1 “My place or yours?”

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• Clean up your place, change the sheets and have all massage items close at hand.  (Oils, candles, music, toys, etc.)
• At dinner or over the phone, let your partner know they can expect a relaxing, sensual, erotic massage.  The anticipation works wonders.
• When its time light some candles, turn the lights off and some soothing music on
• Loose the clothes and ask your partner to get comfortable on his/her stomach
• ( Tip #1 ) Keep your partner warm during the massage via sheet or towel

The Massage

• Begin your massage with simple and light tip of the finger touching.  Be sure to pay close attention to your partner’s reactions.  You want to avoid tickling, achieving more of a tease of things to come.   Start mid-shoulder area working your way to the arms, sides, hips and swell of back.
• Continue to massage your partner with long, deeper more sensual strokes.  Again, we stress that reading your partners reactions to the massage is very important.  We recommend asking if you’re massaging too hard or too soft.
• Progressively get deeper and deeper with your touch, starting in the upper mid back area, progressing down the back and arms.  Try envisioning stress within your partner’s body which you are coaxing and directing out.  Doing this will help you stay consistent in the direction and progressive flow of massage down and away from the upper shoulder / head area.
• Continue your massage to the buttocks, hips, legs, calves and eventually the feet.  Once again, pay attention to your partner as the feet may be a ticklish area.
• Now, ask your partner to turn around, lying on their back. You need to significantly reduce your compressions for this portion of your massage, as tissue is not as deep in the front.  We recommend you use the same tip of finger technique introduced at the beginning of the massage.  This is a great opportunity for you to work in kissing, licking and if suiting the occasional nibble.  Remember, this is a sensual warm up, so take your time before paying close attention to the goods.
• ( Tip#2 ) Try to always keep hand contact with your partner, only changing the position and pressure given.  The pros can give their body melting massages with their eyes closed.
• ( Tip#3 )Try to have each hand mirror one another along the middle of your partner’s body.

Dry cleaners, taxi, dinner and wine … A Tryst can be an expensive endeavor.  Knowing all the right plays for your Tryst can be priceless.
Take your time, pay attention to your partner and afterwards the two of your will be basking in the afterglow of some unreal sex.
Tryst’s Playbook assures it will keep the plays coming.

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